Something my family and I have been attempting to use as a tool is Validation. Validating someone gives them a moment to have another person recognize your suffering/fear/excitement. Validation makes a passport useful. Validation gives a person an opportunity to lessen their emotions and endure their hardship just a skosh more. What we’ve been doing …
So, I’m coming up to the 1 month of working, while parenting with positivity. I must confess, before July I had a long, tear filled afternoon talk with the kids. I admitted that I’d tried my best and that if within one month we haven’t made amazing changes to each and every one of us …
The more a physical item is withheld from a child, the more they’ll pine away for it. From my experience, if a child wants something, they’ll go get it even if we say “no.” I’ve learned from first hand that if I can help them receive it, I should let them buy it. If it’s …
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Started the new job this weekend, busy as hell. I was up from 6am-2am several days in a row, and the kids did really well. However, they have needed assuring hugs, nods and approval a bit more. Family chats go deeper than anything I’ve ever experienced as a christian. My kids are pulling up past …
Scientific mathematicians, gurus, and geeks around the globe are telling us that we make our own reality, but most people can’t grasp that as a possibility. It sounds make-believe. A fantasy. It’s too out-there to even consider. This, right here is reality. What do they know in their lab coats? Nothing, right? But, if you …
Love is an extension of yourself to another being. It is a deep longing for another to be in joy –always! It is a strong push from within to be there and share–or at least witness –the joy with the one(s) you love. Love isn’t something you can yank away and give at your command. …
This may sound strange to some of you, but I’ve realized I have guides. All of us do! Perhaps within us is a voice that speaks loudly, with worry and concern. But there is a soft voice within the chatter inside… for me, there is no knowledge of gender, name or even a vocal pitch; …
This business of mothering is challenging. I want to be an individual. I want desires of my own to be important, noticed and validated, just like the rest of us. But as a mother, there’s just no getting around the fact that I am a master at many things and a failure, too. Take for …
I’m taking a lot of time to delve into the darkness, lately. My children have been hurting far more than I knew. Far more than I let myself acknowledge. Far, far more than they let me see. Now I understand “hurt people hurt people” more than ever. As I’ve been sitting with the children in …
Oh Navi, I love your twinkle and how you are adventurous and brave. Excuse the geek-digressions. I can promise, if you try this for one single day, you will shock your loved ones and realize what tolerating and acceptance feel like and you may also find out what it feels like to be spoken to …
