It seems most of us in the entire world are experiencing quarantine (albeit government, news media, and “essential workers”) in solitude. We are shacked up in homes, alone; holed up in apartments with mates; re-homed with parents; at home with children. Yet there are some that are homeless, enduring this all alone.
What we’re all feeling though is separation –and we are a socially dependent race. No matter what we tell ourselves, we need companionship and acceptance in our lives with the people we are attracted to and the people we are repulsed by. We are dependent upon each other! All of us.
Placing our needs aside, do we have any reason to hate? Placing our needs aside, can we excuse our demands? Placing our needs aside, can we justify our behaviours towards one another with kindness and generosity? The ego is very strong, narcissism has been our survival skill for forever. Self wants to live. Self wants self to survive. Self wants to be accepted, loved and provided for, generously. But is self willing to accept, love and provide for generously –for others?
Take a moment to see the life you have from the perspective of a fly on the wall. What do you see? Is the self in your house doing things from a self-motivated, self-preserving place? Is the self on the couch in your home making choices based on self, or on others? Is the self in your kitchen and preparing meals being selfish, or being generous to others (if living with others) or self (if living with self)? What are the motivations of that person you’re looking at that makes you? (remember you’re a fly on the wall)
My advice for myself and for others today is to take a moment and look as an observer at yourself.
Are you willing to give out the generosity you expect others to give you?
Are you willing to be as forgiving as you need others to be of you?
Are you able to be as kind as you want others to be to you?
Are you capable of being caring as much as you wish others cared about you?
This is a desperate time; we are cooped up with either ourselves, or others. We have the opportunity to make our home lives the most wonderful –or the worst possible. The change has to begin with you.
Stay safe and social!
Love,
Alexis
