Love is an extension of yourself to another being. It is a deep longing for another to be in joy –always! It is a strong push from within to be there and share–or at least witness –the joy with the one(s) you love. Love isn’t something you can yank away and give at your command. Love is strong, unbreakable and light. Love isn’t judging and accusatory. It’s accepting and trusting. Love isn’t sarcastic and biting; it’s gentle and soft and can be painful when not reciprocated. But it’s still love. Love isn’t jealous: it owns no one and needs no one to own it. Love flows freely and can be had by all.
Real, true love of a mother and child is beyond measure. I know this from my own experiences with my children and unfortunately, from the poor example that I had as a child. I can see how immature my mother was from my observation point. Yes, she treated me better than my childhood best friend’s mother, but that comparison is pretty dark to begin with.
A mother with a mature mind will not see their child’s misbehavior and judge them, they’ll judge themselves. A mature, healthy minded mother will be able to discern suffering in their child and will have no desire to add to their misery by distraction or giving nicknames based on their attitudes. No, she’ll go to her child and ask questions and lovingly listen, without putting in any of her two cents. She’ll give advice when asked. She’s kind because love flows through her veins. She loves because it’s who she is, it’s never forced.
An immature minded mother will hear their child’s suffering and demand the child stops their feelings and feel like they want their child to. She will interfere and meddle with advice on how to live a life just like hers; just as miserable as hers and just as dead in love. Misery loves company. Hurt people hurt people.
I’m sorry if you’re in this boat. I am too, if it makes you feel less alone.
Be a loving mother. Be mature in your love for them; recognize when you’re just another playground bully. Children with mature minded mothers will be confident and certain of their worth –we have the power to create children like this! And children like this will grow up to save this planet!